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Every year I get bombarded with the usual question, “So how exactly do you give great head?” This query usually pops out after many drinks, and accompanied by blushing, and an awkward silence.

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Every year I get bombarded with the usual question, “So how exactly do you give great head?” This query usually pops out after many drinks, and accompanied by blushing, and an awkward silence.

Now I don’t know why people, and yes I do mean people because I have gotten the question from both men and women, straight, bi, gay, try-anything-once types of individuals, and they all seem to think that I am the Bill Nye (The Science Guy) of blow-jobs. Apparently I have that reputation. It is definitely a reputation which means a lot to me, because frankly, I have worked hard for it, but that’s a column for another day.

So without much further ado, here is my guide to sucking great cock and having men cumming back for more.

Warning: Loves Blowjobs
Be Fucking Fearless

Women and men alike have a fear of the penis. As some of my friends have said, “I don’t have one; how the hell am I supposed to know what to do with it?”

The penis is not something to be feared. It’s not something to hide from, and it’s definitely not something to be put up with the good china and used for special occasions only. The penis is alive and breathing, so to speak, and as such, is not a one-size-fits-all, if-one-guy-likes-it, all-guys-like-it kind of entity.

One of the major keys to giving your guy good head, is to know his penis intimately, know what it looks like, what it smells like, what it feels like. In other words, know your man’s dick inside and out… LOL.

The entity known as the penis, extends from two inches below the navel, to the actual head and shaft, balls, inner thighs, perineum, in the ass all the way to the prostate. This is the whole area that you have to work with; imagine it like a canvas; fill it up.

Another thing to realize when you are looking your man’s penis eye-to-eye, is that you are the one in power. See his penis as an extension of your will. It is a known fact that a man’s dick is one of the biggest receptors of energy on his body: its very nature is to pick up what you are putting out–so show it no mercy, make it bend to your every whim, and in turn it will give your guy the biggest orgasm he has ever experienced!

Know thy Anatomy
The Glans: The meaty part of the head of the penis, basically the mushroom top.

Meatus: It lies on the tip of the glans penis, literally the hole and surrounding tissues which form a passage for both urine and the ejaculation of semen.

Frenum/Frenulum: The area on the underside of the penis, where the foreskin is attached, or was attached as the case may be.

Corona: The ridge at the bottom of the glans penis.

Corpus Spongiosum: The shaft of the penis which extends the length of the penis all the way to the head, where it becomes the glans penis.

Perineum: The area between the scrotum and the anus, also known as the happy fun bridge.

Scrotum: The balls and the ball sack.

Testicles: The balls.

Anus: Usually thought of as the shit hole, but also one of the areas on the human body where there are an unusual amount of nerve endings, which when stimulated can cause much joy and happiness.

So What Can You Do With It?

The epicenter of pleasure for men lies in three areas, the head (consisting of the glans penis, frenulum, corona, and meatus), the scrotum (balls and ball sack), and the anus. Now that isn’t saying that the shaft, the perineum, and the inner thighs aren’t fun too, but those are combination spots that you can hit to extend and intensify the pleasure of your man. Last, but not least, is the brain! Now most people don’t think men work with their brains during sex, but that is Myth #1. (There will be many more myths to come.) The way the brain works for men is that it not only coordinates desire and responses, but it connects all the other pleasure receptors together.

Let’s Put It All Together!

First and foremost, be the fearless bitch that you are! Nothing turns a guy on more then taking charge, throwing him on the bed, pulling his pants off, and staring that dick in the eye, and saying, “Dick, you are my bitch now!” (Internal voice for that last part!) Your guy may want a lady out in the world, but in the bedroom, let your inner whore come out. I am intentionally reclaiming the word whore here. For far too long, we have been told to be ashamed of our bodies, to look away, to not take pleasure in the sensual and the sexual. So let’s take it back together. Repeat after me, “I am a god-damn-mother-and-father-fucking, dick-sucking whore!” Say it like you mean it, because this is the mantra which you will repeat through out your years as the best dick sucker out there.

Now let’s get to work. First thing’s first; for beginners, concentrate your attention on the head of the penis. It’s a little known fact, but gentle-to-medium-to-hard pulsating pressure applied with fingers and mouth to the frenulum can make your guy cum in three minutes flat, if done correctly.

I personally like to extend blow job sessions as much as possible because I am a tease. My motto when giving head is, this is my penis now and I will tell you when to cum.

The glans penis is also a great spot to spend a lot of time at. You can lick it gently. You can motorboat it. You can put it between your thumb and index fingers and pet it. All of the above should be done, and in any (and every) order.

The meatus is an often neglected spot, but one which can cause some major moaning, even from the most stoic of guys. What you want to do is get the tip of your tongue and go around the circumference and then you can literally fuck the hole with your tongue or tips of your fingers.

The anus is a major spot of absolute excitement for men, but one that has alot of taboos associated with it. Guys who identify as straight can have some hang-ups, though times are definitely changin’. You want to start off by working the perineum, and by that I mean lick, tickle, you can take your knuckle and apply pressure in the middle of the fun bridge, as well as diggin in with your knuckle while shaking it. This is all lead-up to the actual ass itself.

Now some people don’t get that lube is important, but trust me, there is always time for lube. Have a bottle right by your bedside, perferably one with a pump, get some on your fingers and go to town.

[Editor's Note: Here at Bombshells & Rockstars, we don't support any lube with desensitizing or numbing or shrinking ingredients. Please use body-safe and body-friendly products. Your partner will thank you for it! If you need recommendations, don't hesitate to write us--that's what we're here for!]

Start by just fingering the outside of your guy’s ass; you can go in circular motions, up and down, pulsating, etc. You can also switch it up with your tongue, a little flick here and little lick there, all good things.

If you are going to tackle the inside, that’s a different story. Always start small… I mean pinky finger small and make sure you have enough lube on your finger. Begin with the above mentioned practices, and then slowly ease into the ass. This shouldn’t cause your guy any pain. If it does stop, add more foreplay, and add more lube. You want to reassure your guy as you work it so he doesn’t tense up, so the slower the better. Once you get started with penetration, you can pulsate, shake, go in and out, scoop up and in with your pinky, and hopefully all of the above.

So those are the basics for every great cock-sucker Sex Pistil-style; below you will find tips for both the blower and blowee.

Tips for Blowees

1. Wash up, wash up, wash up! There is nothing sexy, hot, or exciting about three days worth of duck butter.

2. Try being vocal: what feels good, what do you want to have happen, moan a bit. etc. Communication is key!

3. Be adventurous. Let your partner(s) take you new heights; let go of control.

4. Don’t make your partner(s) feel obligated to do anything they don’t want to do! Nothing kills the mood faster or makes your partner(s) feel dirty and used (and not in the good way) than doing something that they don’t want to do.

5. Never, and I repeat, never grab your partners head and force yourself in them, if that’s not their thing. When it comes to that move, it can make your woman and/or man feel degrated, humiliated, and down right pissed-the-fuck off, and not in a good way. Always okay it with your partner(s) beforehand.

Tips for Blowers

1. Make sure you partner washes up. I always carry wet wipes with me: quick, fast, and can be sexy if done properly.

2. Get relaxed. Work with the penis, not against it.

3. Gag-reflex is something that happens, don’t try and conquer the world the first time out, work up to it, and practice makes perfect. [Editor's Note: Mistress Arabella has a handy-dandy trick to temporarily disable the gag-reflex! She'll be posting about it soon! Hooray! Feel free to do a happy dance!]

4. When it comes to licking ass (also called Rimming), just do it. Smell test first, with your fingers, but if all signs point to yes, go for it! And have fun!

5. Don’t forget about super-sexy ninja combo-moves! You have your mouth, and two hands, and all of them should be doing different things at the same time: pinch, pull, pet, tickle, etc… Be inventive. Surprise yourself and your partner!

6. Your tongue and mouth can effectively be another hand. You can position your tongue in the mouth to apply pressure, shake, shimmy, pulsate, etc… in exactly the same manner that you do with your finger; try it out. Giving great head is so not just about letting your tongue lie there.

7. Teeth: some guys like it, some guys don’t. Always err on the side of caution, as opposed to too much. This is another thing to discuss with your guy beforehand. Better to communicate than to hurt someone that you care about!

There is always way too much to say about blowjobs, and how to give them, but this is a start. In coming weeks I will write a second column for more advanced moves.

If you have questions or suggestions of what you want to know about, leave a comment on this post or write to sexDOTpistilATbomshells-and-rockstarsDOTcom

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  28. That was totally awesome. And the phrase ‘duck butter’ cracked me up! xx Dee

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  29. This post is more fun than watching two dogs fucking! It’s honest, direct, human, playful, natural and one of my favorite reads all week. Great job, really. -arvan

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  30. Bajo says:

    Sex Flower, Darling… Can you address lube and vaginas… what’s appropiate?

  31. Sex Pistil says:

    Sylce, I would love to read how to eat some pussy! I am always turned on by good sex positive work! Time to reclaim our bodies on all levels!

  32. Oh hell yes, Slyce! Are you volunteering? :D

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  33. Slyce says:

    Yess. Absolutely delicious. I especially love the coaching “Dick, you are my bitch now!” Made me giggle, and relax, and raised my temp a couple of degrees… Appreciate the sexy, genius open way you put it all together, complete with tips for blower and bloweeeeeee. I was riveted. And breathin deep by the end of it. Can’t wait for some more advanced sexploration in your next column. Well, whattaya think ladies and gents and all sentients, reckon we need to post a Guide to Eating Great Pussy? Reckon so. xxx Slyce

  34. Devaint One says:

    Wow, that was great! Thanks for the great work!

  35. Bunny says:

    This is a great guide! I like that you incorporated anatomy in there as well, which is often over looked. Thanks! Bunny

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  36. Sex Pistil. Sex Pistil. Sex Pistil. HOT FUCKING DAMN! Every time I read your coulums, I am blown right outta the water. Holy moly. This is sheer brilliance. You, my dear, are a Rockstar-fucking-God. You are incredible, and you are an inspiration to me. And to all. And I am so proud to call you my friend and my co-worker, my teacher and my colleague. Happy National Oral Sex Month! Yesssssss. June is national oral sex month, and I don’t know how you do it, but you have absolutely perfect timing for this perfect guide to sucking great cock. I miss sitting in public restaurants and talking about these things with you so loudly over dinner that we’d gather crowds around us ’cause they wanted to eavesdrop. Hee. And I miss hugging you! Oooooh! And I saw the coolest thing today! A barbell piece of jewelry for my tongue piercing that is a standard straight barbell with ball on the bottom with a tiny penis on the top! How cool is that? I’m all over it. Must order. Must have cock in my mouth at all times. Must give awesome head with cock in my mouth. Must write about it for this site. Heh. Anyway, kudos for an awesome guide for newbies and advanced sexperts alike. You cover so many incredibly important things here from anatomy to communication to confidence to internal dialogue. LOVE it. And so looking forward to the second post in the series, by the way. ‘Cause you rock my world, babe. Omgod. You do. So fucking hard. Shit. Still trying to catch my breath! And I’m not kidding about the disabling of the gag-reflex. I have a few tricks up my sleeve, too. We’re rockstars and bombshells for a reason, Sex Pistil. So happy to know you and love you. Thanks for being so awesome. xxxxx, your Bella.

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