As you can tell from the title, I have been listening to Madonna on repeat for several days now. I find myself listening to her when I am in a funk, and not just your average bad day kinda funk, but the kinda funk that happens as a result of mediocre sex. 
Now, we all have different definitions of what “good” and “bad” sex are, but for me it all boils down to how I feel both during and after said-event. In recent nights, my sexual exploits have felt more like a middle age house frau who is cleaning to compilations of muzak from 80s hair bands than that one scene in Truth Or Dare where Madonna is showing us how she wants to give Antonio Banderas a blowjob with a coke bottle. [Editor's Note: It's actually a bottle of Vichy Catalan. But there's not that much of a difference. Hee.] I know I am aging myself, but I am child of the late 80s and early 90s, and back in the day, that bitch knew had to werk! I use the word bitch a lot these days, because as my friend Miss E says, “Fuck the Patriarchy!” To be a bitch, not only are you powerful, but you are empowered in your body. That is what Madonna was about back in the day, she challenged all of us to fucking own our intellects, emotions, and most of all our bodies. How could we be powerful if we allowed ourselves to be dominated and enslaved to a vision that wasn’t self-created, or to a life that didn’t belong to us? Now for a Southern, Latino boy, that was the shit, to realize that my inalienable right was to ultimately be myself. I realize that tangents are my specialty, but I promise I do have a point, which is…”Why do we settle?” In the age of sexual liberation, are we really all that liberated, or did we just trade one form of captivity for another? I knew after the first time I slept with this guy, actually more within five minutes after meeting him, that he wasn’t right for me, but that didn’t stop me from bringing him back to my place. Now I am not one of those people who believe in “soul mates,” but I do believe there is a group of people that are the right fit for us (i.e. compatible kinks, politics, life styles, etc.). Something that I have been asked, and that I am asking myself is this, does being with the “right nows” get us closer to the group of “rights” that we are all looking for? I know this is a short column, but thats I all I have… I would like to hear what you out there in the cyberworld think about the questions that were asked, and in my next column I would like to share some of your thoughts and give them a little Sex Pistil love. You can leave me comments here, or write to me at sexDOTpistilATbombshells-and-rockstarsDOTcom –Oh, I just started my very own Sex Pistil facebook page. Unfortunately those puritans won’t let you put “sex” anywhere in my name, so I am known as Adam Pistil, give me a shout, friend me, send me some cock pics, you know the usual… ;-) Kisses all over your fun bits, Sex Pistil
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I think those people that are the “right now” hook-ups/relationships, give us the opportunity to learn and grow. They can act as a mirror for us; illustrating what we really want and need. That growth leads us to the “rights” in our life. The key, though, is learning to grow and not stagnate around who is available just because it’s easy.
Bunny´s last [type] ..I’m Possessed
Bunny´s last [type] ..I’m Possessed
Oh Madonna! I was dancing around in my living room to “Like A Prayer” today myself. :-D Really interesting points you bring up. I think the current ideas about what constitutes “sexual liberation” can be just as constraining as placing too much importance on chastity and virginity or whatever. There’s still so much awkwardness and fear about sex, so many things people refuse or don’t know how to talk about. So much SHAME! Self-inflicted or not, shame is still such a huge barrier to overcome. As for your other topic, I’m not inclined to believe in soul mates, or “the right one”. I think there’s people we click with, for whatever reason, and not always in the same way. I’ve definitely had a few great “right now” relationships; the only problem was trying to ever make them more than that, or placing constraints on them. Of course, that’s been my problem with my not-so-casual relationships as well.
Personally when I’ve done things in my life that do not live up to my self…. it has been because I could not “contain” myself. Even though I am a strong, sexy, wildly intelligent and creative beings… I temporarily lose sight of myself and only see the “world” swirling around me. A world of people hooking up, getting what they want, being decadent and beautiful. So rather than see/feel what I AM, I start to believe that “they” have something I do not. So in that state of being, “opportunities” come along. Most often OPPORTUNISTS come along and jump into that self created void/shadow. Hence, sex with incomparable people and experiences in not so life affirming places is born. Rather than FEEL “I am better than this” I only felt hunger/desire for something to interact with me, something to inflict my being on and be inflicted back. Yet each disappointment just affirms what I already knew before. No one has anything that I need. If anything what I crave most is to be needed, not so much sexually, but that someone -enjoys- me so much that they open their lives and heart that we can share life together and make each others day as kick ass as possible. :)
Sagekitten´s last [type] ..Jewkitten: In my "Intuitiverse" the Sun holds humanities collective power and shall return it when we mature.
Sagekitten´s last [type] ..Jewkitten: In my "Intuitiverse" the Sun holds humanities collective power and shall return it when we mature.